Can’t We Talk About Something More Pleasant? by Roz Chast

I heard Roz Chast talking about her newest book on NPR and bought this memoir the next day.  I strongly recommend getting this book in the hardback  versus the electronic version, as you want to experience her cartoons and text laid out as she intended.

I inhaled this book in two sittings.  I’ve long been a fan of Roz Chast’s cartoons in the New Yorker and elsewhere, so this was an insight into a moving part of her life.

This is a cartoon (with prose) memoir of her aging Jewish parents – well into their 90’s and, although always independent and self-sufficient, now in decline.  As their only child, Ms. Chast tries to muddle through their needs – wanting to respect their pride, while still caring for them with their weakened health and memory issues.

Sounds dreary?  Wrong!  This is a funny, moving and soulful accounting of caring for aging parents that is in fact deeper and more insightful than a cartoon memoir might appear.

Some of the humor is laugh-out loud funny, other times I found myself laughing uncomfortably but through her cartoons,  Ms. Chast is able to assure us that the negative, frustrated feelings in this difficult situation are as important and valid as the positive, loving feelings. It shows the complicated emotions dealing with aging parents – especially when they’re resilient, resistant and proud.

If you’re a fellow baby boomer (hate that term, but OK) and dealing with these issues or already have – you will gain insight from this book.  The ending is devastating and emotional, but the entire memoir is TRUE and honest – frightening and yet lovingly funny.  Yes, that’s it – lovingly funny, honest and true.  Read it.

This is the Story of a Happy Marriage by Ann Patchett

I’ve read almost everything by Ann Patchett (Magicians Assistant is one of my all time favorite novels) so I was clambering to read this collection of her essays.

I was surprised to find it available for checkout as an ebook though the S.F Library system – Score!

It’s lovely to have this collection of her personal essays from various sources (New York Times, Harpers, Granta, etc.) all in one place.  As I hoped, the essays give an insight into the author;  her writing career, her marriages, her dogs, her discovery of opera and her bookstore -Parnassus Bookstore in Nashville, Tennessee.  If you’re an Ann Patchett fan you will definitely enjoy this.

However, there was one essay “Do Not Disturb” which disturbed me.  She has a house full of guests getting on her nerves, so she ditches them to her husband’s care and flies to LA to check into the Bel-Air – seriously? She is a successful author and can certainty afford it, but this seemed over the top.

Otherwise these essays are fun, insightful, not too sticky-sweet and very readable.

Some favorite quotes:  “Playing the cello, we’re more likely to realize that the pleasure is the practice, the ability to create this beautiful sound, not to do it as well as Yo-Yo Ma, but still, to touch the hem of the gown that is art itself.”

“The love between humans is the thing that nails us to this earth.”

“There can be something cruel about people who have had good fortune. They equate it with personal goodness.”

(On her husband Karl) “He encouraged me in everything I did.  His answer to every question was yes.  He was proud of me, and he never found a way to undermind my success or spoil a happy moment.”

The Novel Cure by Ella Berthoud & Susan Elderkin

From Abandonment to Zestlessness – 751 Books to Cure What Ails You

Advance Review Copy from Penguin Press

This is a  fun and wacky reading guide.   It’s a browsing book and, if like me, you’ll keep it next to your reading chair and dip in for short 3-5 page reads.  It categorizes books for us bibliophiles — but not in a way I’ve ever seen before.

The book gives book recommendations by ailment categories such as Constipation – (Shantaram by Gregory David Roberts) to Road Rage – they recommend audio books to dissipate a driver’s fury  – to the best books to read in a hammock .  This book surprises, delights and slightly irritates.

While some of the categories/recommendations are expected – under Racism is Invisible Man, Being Short lists The Hobbit, the book surprises with titles placed in unlikely categories — to offset Loneliness they recommend Tales of the City by Maupin so you can feel a part of a gang of neighbors.  Under Hating your Nose is Perfume by Patrick Suskind.   Sometimes the book irritates with many cross-references, over-zealous use of parenthesis, and some shallowness.  Also, the proof copy lacked page numbers for the much-needed indexes at the back.  The actual book will be much improved with that feature.

For wackiness  – investigate the the section labeled Diarrhea which recommends books for the bathroom.  And some categories are contrived – as in Hemorrhoids – nothing more to be said there.

The book synopsis vary widely – ranging from well-written and poignant to flippant and shallow.  This is not the Guide to English Literature, nor is it a great literary work – but I don’t think authors meant it to be.

I found the “Reading Ailment” sections inspiring as they focus on the reading life, book collecting  and advice —  – “Depletion of Your  Library Through Lending”, “Being Seduced by New Books” (my weakness) and “Reading to live more Deeply”.

One of my favorite of the reading ailments was Finishing, fear of:

You have been delighted by the books, befriended the characters in the books, wolfed down the book, dreamed about the book, missed the book, cried with the book, made love to the book, thrown the book across the room, been dead to the world outside the book – and now you are about to finish the book. We’ve all been there: it is a terrible gutting moment.

But do not despair.  You do not have to leave the world of the book behind.  As soon as you’ve finished the book, read around the book — reviews, literary criticism, blogs, whatever you can find.  Talk to other people who have read the book.  Watch the film of the book. Read the book in another language.  And then, finally, re-read the book.  The best books, by the greatest authors, will stand up to being reread many times in a life and indeed give back more each time. In this way you will never finish the book.  You will become the book, and it will become a part of you.  You have not reached the end.  You are, in fact, just beginning.

Finally, in the Reading Ailment section labeled “Overwhelmed by the Number of Books in the World” I discovered  I’ve missed my calling – becoming a bibliotherapist – is there a course for this? Sign me up!:

Consider booking a consultation with a bibliotherapist who will analyze you reading tastes, habits and years, as well as where you’re at in your personal and professional life, then create a reading list tailored especially for you.